In Rachel's eighteen years, and Andrew's sixteen, they have never participated in a Halloween celebration. We didn't wear Halloween costumes, we didn't go trick or treating, and we didn't go to Halloween parties. Yes, they have been deprived (as I am frequently told, in a tongue and cheek manner, by my daughter), and I may be responsible for the therapy they will clearly require in their adulthood. But that's not to say that my children never had dressed up for fun in costumes or have eaten a boatload of candy...just not on Halloween.
So why don't I like Halloween? It's a good question. I actually grew up doing all those things I didn't allow my children to do--costumes, trick or treating, etc. And in doing so, I never believed I was engaged in any "evil" activities. So why now?
Let me start by saying that my position has nothing to do with the history of what Halloween is or is not. Not that I am not interested in those things, but they are not the reason I feel the way I do. My objection to Halloween is not what it was, but what it is in the here and now. And regardless of what anyone else tries to argue, what I see is a dark and evil celebration. Every year, it is all around us, everywhere, during the month of October. Halloween Horror Nights, Fright Night, The Shallow Grave, Haunted Houses, Hallow-Scream, and horror movies...these are the celebrated events of Halloween. These are the billboards, signs at grocery stores, and picture ads everywhere I turn during the Halloween season. There are monsters, vampires, zombies, and a whole host of creatures of the night that "come to life" for this holiday. All of it is creepy, dark and meant to instill fear. Halloween is a time when things of the dark are brought to light to be celebrated. And because of that, I do not like it or want to be a part of it.
When I have shared my view about Halloween with others, it is most often met with the objection of, "But that is not what we do for Halloween. We don't allow scary costumes or go to any of those scary events. For us, it's just a night of good, clean fun and lots of candy." And I get that. Even more important, I believe that. I know many wonderful people who have celebrated Halloween, or celebrate it now with their children, and I don't judge them. That is their decision. But for me, I just can't do it. Even if I chose to celebrate Halloween with those good intentions and wholesome approach, I can't erase the reality of what is also a part of this holiday all around. There is darkness, there is evil, and I don't want to have any part of it by celebrating the holiday.
When I Google Halloween images, both of these pictures below come up:
One is cute and innocent...the other? not so much, and that's hardly the scariest one that came up. Both represent Halloween as we know it. So for me, as long as this dichotomy exists, and darkness remains a significant part of what Halloween is, I cannot and will not be a part of it. When I search through God's Word, there is a clear distinction between light and dark, and they cannot exist together. It is either one or the other, and as a child of God, I am called into the glorious light. So for me, Halloween can stay in the dark, where it belongs.
Well said! Our kids didn't celebrate Halloween either after we researched history and found that the darkness and evil exist today in just the manner you describe. We took them to a venue for playtime as a reward for not participating in trick or treat. I only wish they would follow in our steps. But that's up to them.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Sharon. Yes, we have always taken the kids out for something fun too, to fill the void.
DeleteWhen Shayna was younger we didn't celebrate and when shayna got older, we has talked about Halloween and let her make own decision. I would go buy her candy, only what she liked, so wasn't deprived.
ReplyDeleteI always told the kids, "If you're afraid of not getting candy, we'll get you candy!!" and we did. Now that they are older, Rachel does choose to engage in some Halloween things, but Andrew does not.
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ReplyDeleteWe participated in our local library's "storybook character costume contest" when our daughter was very young. Then we came to the same conclusions you have written about: evilness/ugliness/horror was called "good" one day (or month!) every year and we decided to stop all celebration. I think my adult children have survived the deprivation.
DeleteI am sure they have, lol! I tell my kids that all the time. :)
DeleteWell written and well said! I have struggled with Halloween for years now. When my Mom was alive and we shared a house together in her final years, she loved giving out candy. It was like a block party in our neighborhood. So we agreed we wouldn't decorate the house but would simply enjoy being with the neighbors outside for an hour or so, celebrating the young kids who were out and about.
ReplyDeleteNow that Mom has passed, I find little fun in Halloween for the reasons you stated. I just couldn't have explained it as eloquently.
Kate Lake
What a special memory of your mom! Thank you for your kind words, Kate!
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